DateableHow to choose the offer on your Board listing
Pick the offer type that matches what you will actually do. Your offer is your promise, not a product being sold. Write only what you will honour.
Your offer on a Board listing tells people what you're willing to provide. Pick an offer type that matches what you will actually do: hosted, gift, allowance or travel covered. Dateable never moves money between members, so write only what you can honour.
The four offer types
Each type describes a different way to express generosity. Choose one that fits the kind of arrangement you have in mind. You can list one offer or mention that you are open to others, but be clear about which one is the main thing you are offering.
- Hosted: You cover the cost of an occasion. This might be a dinner, a weekend, a concert, a trip or an experience. You choose the activity and pay for it all.
- Gift: You offer a gift related to something the person wants or needs. This could be anything from a practical item to something you have chosen because you know their taste. It is not an allowance: it is a gift.
- Allowance: You provide regular financial support. This is usually monthly or per meeting, an amount you agree on. The person spends it as they choose.
- Travel covered: You pay for travel to meet you. This might mean flights, a car, accommodation or all three. Be specific about what you will cover.
Write what you will actually honour
Your offer is a statement from you. You are not selling something: you are saying what you are prepared to do. Applicants will apply expecting you to do exactly that, so write only what you genuinely intend to provide.
This matters because people will make decisions based on your offer. If you say you will cover an allowance of 2000 a month, someone will arrange their time around knowing they have that. If you say you will pay for flights, someone will book time off work expecting that to happen. The clearer and more honest you are, the better.
If you are offering a hosted dinner, say what kind of dinner and roughly where. If you are offering an allowance, be honest about the range. If you are offering travel covered, say what you will cover: flights only, or flights and accommodation, or flights, accommodation and spending money. The more specific you are, the better a match you will find.
I'll cover a long weekend in Sydney for the right person. Flights, a nice hotel, dinners at restaurants you have been wanting to try.
Someone reading that knows exactly what to expect. An offer that says only "generous" means nothing to an applicant trying to decide whether to apply.
Keep the free text clear and short
The free text field is where you add detail to your offer type. Keep it under 300 characters and use plain English. No promises you cannot keep, no coded language, no sarcasm or jokes that could be misread.
Applicants are trying to work out whether this is what they are looking for. They will read your text literally. If you write "I am looking for someone who is smart and fun", someone will apply thinking you meant what you wrote. If you write "I want someone drama-free", someone will apply hoping to be the exception. Write what you mean, plainly.
What counts as clear and short: "Monthly allowance, dinner once a week, discretion important to me." What does not: "Looking for my ideal girl, you know the type", or "Serious inquiries only, time wasters will be blocked", or "Must be willing to try new things". The first is factual. The others are vague or coded.
Plain text is taken at face value. If you write "I will help with your student fees", applicants will believe you mean it. Write what you mean.
Never ask the guest to pay
Dateable's review process refuses any listing that asks the guest to contribute money. You offer generosity or you do not. The guest is there because you invited them.
This applies to everything: tickets, meals, accommodation, transport. Do not offer to cover accommodation then ask them to split the hotel bill. Do not offer a dinner then ask them to pay for drinks. Do not offer travel then ask for a contribution. Your offer is all or nothing.
I can take you to the gala and cover your outfit allowance, but you will need to pay for your own hair and makeup.
That listing will not pass review. Every part of what you offer is your responsibility, or you do not offer it.
Avoid the traps that get listings refused
Some offers sound clear to you but will not pass review. Dateable's review process is strict because it protects both members.
Do not ask for anything in return for your offer. "Allowance for exclusivity" is fine. "Allowance if you can cook" is not: you are setting a condition. "Hosted dinner" is fine. "Hosted dinner if you look like your photos" is not: you are making the offer conditional on something the applicant cannot control.
Do not disguise what you are offering. "Modeling opportunity" or "consulting job" that is actually an allowance will not pass. "Mentoring arrangement" where money changes hands but no actual mentoring happens will not pass. Be direct about what kind of relationship you are offering.
Do not write anything sexual or that suggests sex is part of the offer. Dateable is a dating site, not a sex work platform. Write what you offer: experiences, time, gifts, support, generosity. Nothing more specific than that.
How applicants will decide
An applicant reads your offer and decides whether it matches what they are looking for. A clear offer that is specific and honest is far more likely to attract someone you will want to meet than a vague one. Applicants are looking for reliability: if you write it, you do it.
This is why talking about allowance works better than guessing. This is why posting an invitation that is direct gets better replies. And this is why the community rules exist: so everyone on the platform knows what to expect.
