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Expectations and terms

Say what you want, hear what they want, agree on it.

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Expectations and terms

What to say when someone links support to intimacy

If anyone ties an allowance or gift to sex, the answer is no. End the conversation and report the profile. Consent must be free from pressure.

Two people on a date
Expectations and terms

How to work out what you want before you talk terms

Write down what you want on time, frequency, money, privacy and support before your first conversation, and mark each as a must-have, nice-to-have or flexible.