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Privacy and discretion
Keep your dating life separate from the rest of your life.
Should you accept a phone or laptop from a partner?
Accept it only if new and sealed. Set it up yourself with your own accounts, because a device pre-configured by someone else can be used to monitor you.
How to ask a partner not to post or tag you, with examples
Ask your date not to post or tag you before it happens. Tags and check-ins reveal your location and who you're with.
How to check what your dating apps can see on your phone
Before joining, check app permissions for location, contacts, photos and microphone. Give each app only what it needs to work.
What to check before you give a match your number
Your number can lead to your name, address and social media. Check your messaging profile and privacy settings before you share it.
How to choose a dating username nobody can trace to you
Choose a username you have never used elsewhere, with no surname, birth year or pet name in it, then search it online before you save it.
How to keep dating private on a shared computer or tablet
Use a private browsing window, never save your password, and sign out every time to keep dating private on a shared device.
Why you should never date from your work phone or email
Work devices and accounts belong to your employer. Dating on them puts your privacy in their hands and tells matches where you work.
How to talk about your work without naming your employer
Describe the work, not the company. Tell your date what you do in a way that protects you until trust develops.
How to tell a match you need discretion, with examples
Say what discretion means in practice: no photos online, no shared friends, dates away from work. Vague secrecy reads as a warning sign.
What to say when a match asks why you use a second number
Explain it plainly without apology: a dating number protects your privacy. You switch numbers when you are ready, not when someone asks.
How to find and delete old dating profiles
Delete old profiles that still have your photos by logging in or asking the site, because they link your new profile to your past.
How to find out who can already see your location
Check family sharing, old friend shares, running apps, and photo maps. You may have shared your location years ago and forgotten it.
Should you follow a partner on social media?
A follow is visible to both your circles and invites questions. If you are keeping it private, do not follow yet.
What to say when a friend saw you on a date
Keep it short and true. Yes, I'm seeing someone. Early days, so I'm keeping it quiet. Four sample replies and what to do next.
How to get home from a date without giving away your address
Book and pay for your own ride home. If your date offers a lift, set the drop-off at a well-lit spot near home rather than your door.
How to stop dating notifications showing on your lock screen
Turn off message previews on your dating app and email so your lock screen shows only an app name, not a match's message.
How to hide your Dateable profile from someone you know
Block them instantly with one press, pause your profile if you need a break, or keep photos private until you know who is looking.
How StopNCII stops an intimate image spreading
StopNCII makes a digital fingerprint of your image on your phone, shares only the fingerprint, and partner platforms block it. The image never leaves your device.
What to do if someone makes a fake intimate image of you
Treat a deepfake intimate image like any shared without consent: save evidence, report it, and contact eSafety or police.
Is it safe to send a verification selfie to a dating site?
On Dateable, yes: the selfie is compared to your photos and deleted within 30 days. Ask any other site what it keeps and for how long before sending.
Should you join a dating site if people know your face?
Yes, if you accept that members see your face. Keep other photos private, block people you know, plan dates away from your circles, and verify matches.
How to keep your dating life private from your children
Keep dating on your own phone and your own time, away from home and off shared devices, until you choose to tell them.
How to keep LinkedIn from linking to your dating profile
Make sure nothing on LinkedIn matches your dating profile, and check your settings before you look someone up.
How to keep sugar dating private at university
Never use your student email. Keep campus out of your photos. Block classmates you spot. Meet away from university grounds.