DateableHow to post a Board invitation as an attractive member
Post what you want to do and who you want to do it with. The offer field is optional. Verified members apply, and you choose one.
As an attractive member, you can post an invitation to the Board just like a generous member can. Post what you want to do, who you want to meet, and whether you are looking for an offer in return. Verified members apply with a note, and you choose one.
Why attractive members post
Most members think of the Board as a place where generous members post. But both sides can post, and attractive members often get more out of it. A generous member posting an invitation is asking you to take a chance on someone you have not met. An attractive member posting an invitation is asking someone to prove something: show me your favourite restaurant, teach me to cook pasta, take me somewhere I have never been.
The person who accepts your invitation has to put in effort to earn it. The stakes are higher than just showing up to a date they already suggested.
What to put in your invitation
An invitation has four parts: the place, the time, what you want to do, and what you offer in return. Start with the place. Not "a restaurant" but the kind of place, the suburb or the type of experience. "A Michelin-starred restaurant in Perth" is better than "dinner". "A place that does wood-fired pizza in your part of town" is more useful than "a restaurant". Generous members need enough detail to plan and to know if they can afford it.
Next is the time. "Next weekend" is vague. "Saturday evening after 6pm" gives someone a window and shows you have a real date in mind, not a placeholder.
Then describe what you want to happen. Not just the activity but the mood. "Show me your favourite neighbourhood and tell me why you love it" is different from "meet for a walk". "Teach me something you know that I do not" works because it invites someone to show off a skill. "Take me somewhere you have been that most people do not know about" appeals to people who like to show you their world.
Be specific about the company you want. "Someone who is well-travelled and likes to try new food" tells generous members whether they fit. "Someone who knows the city inside out" does the same. The narrower you are, the fewer applications you will get, but the ones you do get will be closer to what you want.
The offer field is optional
The offer is where you say what you bring to the invitation. For a generous member posting an invitation, the offer is usually money or support. For you, the offer might be nothing at all. That is fine. Leave it blank. You are the attractive member: your time and company are the offer.
If you want to offer something, be honest about what it is. "I will pick the restaurant if you choose the wine" is an offer. "I know the best places for a night out" is useful. "I will take some good photos of you" matters to some generous members. But if you have nothing to offer beyond your time, do not invent one. An empty offer field is better than a hollow one.
What happens when you post
Once your invitation goes live, verified members can read it and apply. They will send you a note with their application. Read the notes. They show you who is interested and how they are thinking about your invitation. Someone might write "I love that neighbourhood too, I have a favourite spot there" or "I have been looking for an excuse to book that restaurant". Pay attention to the effort they put in.
The review rules are the same for the Board as they are everywhere on Dateable. Every message, every profile, every invitation is reviewed. Photos are checked before others see them. Reports reach a real person. If something in an application feels off, you can block that member with one press and move on.
Choose one
Once you have read the applications, you pick one. You are choosing who you meet. Send a message to that person and plan the details. Dateable never holds or moves money. If the generous member is paying for something, that is between the two of you to work out.
If you are not sure about someone, ask more questions before you meet. If an application asks for money, a gift card, or anything before you have met, report it and move on.
The same Board, two ways
Attractive members often think of the Board as something for generous members only. You can use it differently. Post an invitation to show someone your city, test whether they are worth your time, or find someone who can take you somewhere new. The Board is just as much yours as it is theirs. To learn how to post, read how to post an invitation. For more on your side of the platform, read the guide for attractive members. And to understand how the Board works from both sides, read how to post an invitation.
