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First messages
Openers, replies and moving from chat to a date.
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First messages
Signs your messages feel pushy to the other person
You send more messages than they do, you ask before they answer, you mention meeting constantly, or you argue when they say no. Each one has one fix.
First messages
Replies to 'tell me about yourself' that are not a CV
Give two or three real details about how you spend your time or what you are learning. End with a question. Skip the job title, income, and lists of adjectives.
First messages
How to write a first message that gets a reply
Mention one detail from their profile, say one thing about yourself, and ask one easy question. Three sentences is enough for a first message.