DateableDateable
The Dateable blog
Straight answers on dating with clear expectations: first messages, first dates, money, safety and ending things well.
How much to tip in the US: restaurants, bars and valets
In the US, tip sit-down wait staff 15-20% of the pre-tax bill, bartenders $1-2 a drink or 15-20%, valets $2-5, and taxi drivers 15-20%. It signals respect.
How romance scammers build trust before they ask for money
Scammers groom you first: weeks of attention, declarations of love, and small tests before the first money request, so it feels like helping someone you know.
How sextortion works on dating apps
A scammer flirts, records your intimate image, then threatens to send it to family and friends unless you pay. Never send images to someone you have not met.
How StopNCII stops an intimate image spreading
StopNCII makes a digital fingerprint of your image on your phone, shares only the fingerprint, and partner platforms block it. The image never leaves your device.
Why your employer and suburb do not belong in your profile
Sharing your workplace, suburb and family names lets strangers find and contact you before you decide to meet them.
What to do if someone makes a fake intimate image of you
Treat a deepfake intimate image like any shared without consent: save evidence, report it, and contact eSafety or police.
Why intimacy is never part of the terms
Consent must be freely given every time and cannot be bargained for. Support buys time together and experiences, never intimate acts.
How to introduce a partner to useful contacts discreetly
Ask your partner first, agree on a one-line explanation you both use, and introduce by email showing their work. Never mention the relationship.
How to introduce your partner to your friends
Tell your friends beforehand, choose a relaxed group setting, and agree with your partner what to say about how you met. Keep it short.
How to introduce your date at an event, with examples
Use their first name, add one detail about them, and say nothing about how you met. Examples for galas, work dinners, friend's parties and business contacts.
How to invite a partner on a first trip, with examples
A good invitation names the place, the dates, the rooms and what you are covering. Make it easy for them to say yes or no.
How to invite your date to an event, with examples
Tell them what the event is, who will be there, dress code and timing. Cover costs, agree how you will introduce them, and give an easy way to decline.
Is it safe to send a verification selfie to a dating site?
On Dateable, yes: the selfie is compared to your photos and deleted within 30 days. Ask any other site what it keeps and for how long before sending.
Is a sugar daddy allowance taxable in Australia?
The ATO says gifts given out of love are generally not taxable, but gifts tied to work activity can be. A tax agent can help you know where your allowance falls.
How to join a partner on their business trip
You will have free time while they work. Plan your own days, know when you are together, and keep away from their colleagues unless they ask you to join.
Should you join a dating site if people know your face?
Yes, if you accept that members see your face. Keep other photos private, block people you know, plan dates away from your circles, and verify matches.
How to keep a conversation going after the first reply
Answer their question fully, share one detail about yourself, and ask one follow-up that builds on what they said. That is the pattern that keeps a chat moving.
How to keep a long-distance arrangement close between visits
Schedule the next visit before the current one ends, keep a regular call time, and share everyday moments. Long-distance works when both of you do the work.
How to keep a long-term arrangement from going stale
Change one thing each month: a new place, a different day, or a plan they choose. Keep talking about what works. Novelty and honesty keep arrangements alive.
How to make sure a yes is freely given when you are the one paying
Money creates power, so make it clear your support never depends on intimacy. Keep allowance talk separate from physical closeness, and show you mean it.
How to keep your arrangement out of your work diary and expenses
Use your personal calendar, email and card, not your work ones. Never put the arrangement on an expense claim or a diary a colleague can see.
Should you agree to keep an arrangement secret from everyone?
Discretion and keeping the arrangement quiet are not the same as isolation. If someone pressures you to tell nobody, that is a warning sign.
How to keep your confidence when matches stop replying
When a chat goes silent, silence usually means their week got busy. Keep a few conversations going so no single match carries your mood.
How to keep control of your own travel bookings on a trip
Keep your bookings in your name, know your hotel address, keep backup access to your details, and have a way home if plans change.